Call me old-fashioned, but when did sex become just another form of amusement? I thought it was a way to express love for one another, a way to strengthen intimacy on all levels; not just a vehicle for personal pleasure.
A recent letter to Dear Abbey is what sparked this blog post. In the letter a woman wrote that she needs sex several times a month and her husband is unwilling. “He would rather pleasure himself.”
This couple has not had sex for two years, even though she stated that they have a good marriage.
Huh? how can you have a good marriage and have this kind of problem? To satisfy her need, the woman is having an affair, even though she wrote that she would rather have a sex life with her husband.
This type of problem stems from the current attitude that sex is just another toy, and I find that disheartening. Not that we have to go back to the Puritanical philosophy that ruled for so many years, but the modern thinking is pretty scary in some respects. Remember what the world was like before the fall of the Roman Empire? There were few sexual boundaries then, too.
Using newly available technology, a University of Texas seismologist tracking small earthquakes in the Barnett Shale play area of North Texas has found a correlation between geological disturbances and hydraulic fracturing. This was reported in the journal Proceedings of the National Academy of Sciences.
I guess it does take a scientist to prove what common sense would tell anyone. If you start exerting extreme pressure inside the earth, whether from explosives or high-pressure injection wells, something has to give.
To end on a lighter note, here is something fun from a Garfield comic strip. In the first panel he is staring at an open laptop computer. In the next panel Jon steps in and asks, “Why not turn the computer on?”
Garfield says, “And ruin a perfectly good day?”
Have you ever felt that way?
How can you have a good marriage without sex? I have no idea. I’m with you on that one.
I must confess, I am horrified by the sheer amount of pornographic material being published these daye, under the title of ‘erotica’, as if that somehow made it more respectable. Romance used to be about love, not sex.
Bread and circuses!
I think there are many different kinds of “relationships” nowadays but no way could I have someone on the side and not be intimate with my partner, kind of makes you think what is the point?
Lainy http://www.alwaysreading.net
I’m with you, Maryann. A husband who’s happy with his wife but hasn’t made love to her in two years because he’d rather fly solo? Surreal.
Some Dark Romantic
lol at Garfield. Yep, some days I have to keep the computer turned off–just for the break.
Thanks all for taking the time to stop by and comment. I wondered what kind of response I would get since so many people tend to have such a cavalier attitude about sex.