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Inclined Elders: How to rebrand aging for self and society
THIS BOOK WILL BE INVALUABLE IF
Have a desire to continue living a purposeful life, no matter what your age.
Are interested in learning how to maintain a positive attitude from adulthood to elderhood.
Want to learn how to create a living legacy and serve as a role model for future generations.
WHY EMBRACE AN ATTITUDE OF INCLINE?
For the first time in history we are not only living longer, everyone has an important choice to commit to a meaningful, purposeful life of "Incline" as we get older or believe that a new stage – one of steady "decline" – is inevitable. What is not helping is that in the media and society in general there continues the somewhat negative connotation surrounding the concept of aging. And while, at least not now, we cannot do anything about the chronological process of becoming 60, 70, 80 years and beyond, we can change the mindset for it. Embracing change and looking at life with a keener sense of curiosity will lead to living with increased courage to live life to its fullest.
INCLINED ELDERS is a call to action for you to opt for Incline. Not only for your personal fulfillment, but also to help fuel a social "legacy" that increases the number of positive older role models in everyday life. I have written this book to inspire, inform, and challenge you. By the time you reach the last page, I hope you will have made a new to become an inspiring example of a life of Incline so our society relinquishes – once and for all – the notion that aging is synonymous with "decline," "decrepit," "senile," and "over-the-hill."
In this book over 50 men and women ranging in age from 40 to 100 share their tips and techniques on how to live a life of Incline. Their strategies are supported by scientific evidence from the fields of Positive Psychology, Anthropology, and Sociology.
WHO ARE INCLINED ELDERS?
We are the women and men who have made a conscious choice to ignore society's negative mindset of "decline" and "over-the-hill" as we age. Instead we embrace a positive mindset of continuing to Incline and climb ever upwards.
Serving as vibrant role models, the Inclined Elders I spoke to for this book are leaving their own unique legacies of wisdom and inspiration for future generations. There needs to be more of us like them to effect real social change. So why not Incline too? There's an amazing view from up here. Come with us and see for yourself.
Have a desire to continue living a purposeful life, no matter what your age.
Are interested in learning how to maintain a positive attitude from adulthood to elderhood.
Want to learn how to create a living legacy and serve as a role model for future generations.
WHY EMBRACE AN ATTITUDE OF INCLINE?
For the first time in history we are not only living longer, everyone has an important choice to commit to a meaningful, purposeful life of "Incline" as we get older or believe that a new stage – one of steady "decline" – is inevitable. What is not helping is that in the media and society in general there continues the somewhat negative connotation surrounding the concept of aging. And while, at least not now, we cannot do anything about the chronological process of becoming 60, 70, 80 years and beyond, we can change the mindset for it. Embracing change and looking at life with a keener sense of curiosity will lead to living with increased courage to live life to its fullest.
INCLINED ELDERS is a call to action for you to opt for Incline. Not only for your personal fulfillment, but also to help fuel a social "legacy" that increases the number of positive older role models in everyday life. I have written this book to inspire, inform, and challenge you. By the time you reach the last page, I hope you will have made a new to become an inspiring example of a life of Incline so our society relinquishes – once and for all – the notion that aging is synonymous with "decline," "decrepit," "senile," and "over-the-hill."
In this book over 50 men and women ranging in age from 40 to 100 share their tips and techniques on how to live a life of Incline. Their strategies are supported by scientific evidence from the fields of Positive Psychology, Anthropology, and Sociology.
WHO ARE INCLINED ELDERS?
We are the women and men who have made a conscious choice to ignore society's negative mindset of "decline" and "over-the-hill" as we age. Instead we embrace a positive mindset of continuing to Incline and climb ever upwards.
Serving as vibrant role models, the Inclined Elders I spoke to for this book are leaving their own unique legacies of wisdom and inspiration for future generations. There needs to be more of us like them to effect real social change. So why not Incline too? There's an amazing view from up here. Come with us and see for yourself.
- GenresNonfictionInspirational
246 pages, Paperback
Published July 24, 2020
About the author
Ramona Oliver
1 book16 followersRamona Oliver has long been a passionate educator with former roles as a human resource manager/director, career coach, and director of outreach for St. Edward’s University. As a human resource director for many years, she championed the professional development of employees. While serving as president of the Austin Human Resource Management Association, she led a team that designed, developed, and implemented an award-wining leadership program. In addition, she launched a workforce readiness committee that partnered with community organizations to implement workforce readiness initiatives. At St. Edward's University, she promoted lifelong learning and the adult undergraduate and graduate programs to older adults in the Austin community.
Ramona currently serves as an advocate of positive aging. Rather than accepting a mindset of decline, she is passionate about living life with an attitude of Incline. Ramona has been published on the Changing Aging website, offering posts with titles such as "Can We Please Stop Calling It Aging," "What Are We Missing When We Settle for Life Stages?" and "Leave a Legacy and Live It Now!"
Ramona is a recipient of a Book Excellence Award for her current book, INCLINED ELDERS: How to rebrand aging for self and society. It has been recognized for high-quality writing style, book design, and overall marketing appeal.
She earned her Master of Business Administration from St. Edward's University. Ramona lives in Austin, Texas where she enjoys practicing yoga, Pilates, Tai Chi, and Nia and participating in various community groups.
Ramona currently serves as an advocate of positive aging. Rather than accepting a mindset of decline, she is passionate about living life with an attitude of Incline. Ramona has been published on the Changing Aging website, offering posts with titles such as "Can We Please Stop Calling It Aging," "What Are We Missing When We Settle for Life Stages?" and "Leave a Legacy and Live It Now!"
Ramona is a recipient of a Book Excellence Award for her current book, INCLINED ELDERS: How to rebrand aging for self and society. It has been recognized for high-quality writing style, book design, and overall marketing appeal.
She earned her Master of Business Administration from St. Edward's University. Ramona lives in Austin, Texas where she enjoys practicing yoga, Pilates, Tai Chi, and Nia and participating in various community groups.
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July 8, 2021
As someone that is *cough* over 50 *cough* this book really appealed to me and the mindset we should ALL have no matter our age. I will admit that I do not feel my age, I honestly think I am 10-15 years younger. Is it denial or is it just an age I would prefer to be? No matter, the answer, this book guides us to rethink how we view and feel about aging. There is nothing that says as someone ages that they have to wait for death once they hit a certain age. There is so much more to life and there is so much wisdom from those that have experienced life and are willing to share it with everyone they meet.
There are different chapters that focus on different aspects we should consider in our life such as Choices, Courage, Curiosity, and Change. I enjoyed the stories told by various people and felt motivated and encouraged knowing that if they can take a step in their life to keep living on an incline versus a decline, then so can I. After all, aging is a mindset and a positive attitude will only assist anyone wishing to live their best life.
I'm sure we all know someone that has a negative outlook and doesn't do anything to make their life better. I know several people in my family like this and there is nothing any one person can say or do to change their minds. It has to come from within. If you know someone like this and they are open to reading this book, it might change their life.
The personal reflections, stories of gratitude, perseverance, and those that make every day count is what will resonate with many readers. It reminds us to also reach out to those that need assistance and encourage them to continue down their path to a better life.
There is one story that I could relate to - Nancy who was diagnosed with cancer and she decided to just approach it head on as she did with everything else in her life. This sums up my experience with cancer in my 30's. While I wasn't happy with what was going on (who would be?!), I chose to do what needed to be done and when others might have spiraled out of control, I kept moving and working because the cancer was not going to beat me.
I also appreciated an anecdote from BJ and a comment her mother made as she lay dying in her bed. She told BJ to "not wait until the last twenty minutes of your life to realize what life is about and what your purpose is." I think many of us don't have a plan for our life. That is ok, but we also should not sit around waiting for it to come to us and we should seek out what we want from life and how we can contribute to make the world a better place, even in a small way.
I believe this book should be a must read for people of all ages, especially for those that might be lost in their lives and need a place to start and realize that they can make a difference for themselves and those around them. The resources at the end of the book will give you many places to start if you don't know where to start your journey.
We give this book 5 paws up!
There are different chapters that focus on different aspects we should consider in our life such as Choices, Courage, Curiosity, and Change. I enjoyed the stories told by various people and felt motivated and encouraged knowing that if they can take a step in their life to keep living on an incline versus a decline, then so can I. After all, aging is a mindset and a positive attitude will only assist anyone wishing to live their best life.
I'm sure we all know someone that has a negative outlook and doesn't do anything to make their life better. I know several people in my family like this and there is nothing any one person can say or do to change their minds. It has to come from within. If you know someone like this and they are open to reading this book, it might change their life.
The personal reflections, stories of gratitude, perseverance, and those that make every day count is what will resonate with many readers. It reminds us to also reach out to those that need assistance and encourage them to continue down their path to a better life.
There is one story that I could relate to - Nancy who was diagnosed with cancer and she decided to just approach it head on as she did with everything else in her life. This sums up my experience with cancer in my 30's. While I wasn't happy with what was going on (who would be?!), I chose to do what needed to be done and when others might have spiraled out of control, I kept moving and working because the cancer was not going to beat me.
I also appreciated an anecdote from BJ and a comment her mother made as she lay dying in her bed. She told BJ to "not wait until the last twenty minutes of your life to realize what life is about and what your purpose is." I think many of us don't have a plan for our life. That is ok, but we also should not sit around waiting for it to come to us and we should seek out what we want from life and how we can contribute to make the world a better place, even in a small way.
I believe this book should be a must read for people of all ages, especially for those that might be lost in their lives and need a place to start and realize that they can make a difference for themselves and those around them. The resources at the end of the book will give you many places to start if you don't know where to start your journey.
We give this book 5 paws up!
July 9, 2021
How many of us have heard people joke about being “over the hill”? “Put out to pasture”? “In my twilight years”? We as a society have relegated people past a certain age to a slow downward slide from middle age to death. Many people think their later years bring nothing but a trip to the nursing home, there to sit and wait for the Grim Reaper to knock at the door. And since medical science is allowing us to live longer, the prospect of decades of withering away, seen as a doddering elder, good for not much of anything anymore, is bleak.
But getting older doesn’t have to be like that! As I’m right about middle-aged myself, I jumped at the chance to read and review Ramona Oliver’s book, Inclined Elders: How to Rebrand Aging for Self and Society. The basic premise of the book is simple: We don’t have to fade away as we get older. Instead of declining, we can choose to Incline – to move onward and upward, stay active, stay involved, and stay positive.
Oliver’s book is broken into three broad sections: Attitude, Growth, and Empowerment. Each section is chock-full of the experiences and inspiring stories of people who have chosen to continue to be active learners and experiencers of life as they have gotten older.
The Attitude section focuses on what we can do internally to continue to Incline as we get older. One of my favorite stories here is that of Carolyn, who found a way to “dance” even when religious restrictions didn’t allow for dancing. (I grew up in the Baptist church, so I can relate to that, a little bit.) The stories look at characteristics like curiosity, courage, gratitude, and resilience.
The Growth section has an external focus and relates ways in which we can choose to interact with others around us. Stories here touch on topics such as connections, community, culture, and wisdom. I loved Lee’s story, reading about all of the challenges she overcame and how she made wise choices as she grew older.
The Empowerment section focuses on leaving a legacy and living as a role model to the generations coming behind us. The people whose stories are told in the book do this in a variety of ways, from setting a higher standard for their children through their own education, to overcoming introversion and volunteering to help others with disabilities, to creating a program that helps children learn to make life decisions on their own. These stories were particularly uplifting, because who among us doesn’t want to think that, when we leave this earth, we will leave something of value behind?
Each chapter had questions for personal reflection, designed to help the reader move toward his or her own life of Incline. I haven’t worked through them all yet, but I will re-read and take time to answer them all. The book is also packed with helpful resources, many of which I’ve made note of to go back to and work through. I read an ebook version of Inclined Elders for the blog tour, but I’ve enjoyed it so much, I’m going to pick up a hard copy. (And if you’re interested, scroll on down and enter the giveaway to win your own copy!)
This book is excellent for anyone who’s getting to the midpoint of life, or even younger people who have parents that may benefit from the wisdom found here. It is a glorious guide to making your later years even more fabulous than your younger ones, and a great reminder that we’re not all doomed to waste away and slide into the grave quietly. Like Def Leppard says, “It’s better to burn out than fade away.” So I’m going to put this book into practice and Incline and shine!
Five big stars, y’all. It’s good stuff.
But getting older doesn’t have to be like that! As I’m right about middle-aged myself, I jumped at the chance to read and review Ramona Oliver’s book, Inclined Elders: How to Rebrand Aging for Self and Society. The basic premise of the book is simple: We don’t have to fade away as we get older. Instead of declining, we can choose to Incline – to move onward and upward, stay active, stay involved, and stay positive.
Oliver’s book is broken into three broad sections: Attitude, Growth, and Empowerment. Each section is chock-full of the experiences and inspiring stories of people who have chosen to continue to be active learners and experiencers of life as they have gotten older.
The Attitude section focuses on what we can do internally to continue to Incline as we get older. One of my favorite stories here is that of Carolyn, who found a way to “dance” even when religious restrictions didn’t allow for dancing. (I grew up in the Baptist church, so I can relate to that, a little bit.) The stories look at characteristics like curiosity, courage, gratitude, and resilience.
The Growth section has an external focus and relates ways in which we can choose to interact with others around us. Stories here touch on topics such as connections, community, culture, and wisdom. I loved Lee’s story, reading about all of the challenges she overcame and how she made wise choices as she grew older.
The Empowerment section focuses on leaving a legacy and living as a role model to the generations coming behind us. The people whose stories are told in the book do this in a variety of ways, from setting a higher standard for their children through their own education, to overcoming introversion and volunteering to help others with disabilities, to creating a program that helps children learn to make life decisions on their own. These stories were particularly uplifting, because who among us doesn’t want to think that, when we leave this earth, we will leave something of value behind?
Each chapter had questions for personal reflection, designed to help the reader move toward his or her own life of Incline. I haven’t worked through them all yet, but I will re-read and take time to answer them all. The book is also packed with helpful resources, many of which I’ve made note of to go back to and work through. I read an ebook version of Inclined Elders for the blog tour, but I’ve enjoyed it so much, I’m going to pick up a hard copy. (And if you’re interested, scroll on down and enter the giveaway to win your own copy!)
This book is excellent for anyone who’s getting to the midpoint of life, or even younger people who have parents that may benefit from the wisdom found here. It is a glorious guide to making your later years even more fabulous than your younger ones, and a great reminder that we’re not all doomed to waste away and slide into the grave quietly. Like Def Leppard says, “It’s better to burn out than fade away.” So I’m going to put this book into practice and Incline and shine!
Five big stars, y’all. It’s good stuff.
July 17, 2021
"It is not a race. We take one step at a time. In doing so, we have the benefit of pausing to smile at the waving wildflowers along the road. Apply that same attitude to your next adventure of curiosity."
What if we decide to age gracefully and courageously and not accept the rule that we must inevitably decline because we are now culturally considered 'old’?
In Inclined Elders by Ramona Oliver, we discover that retirement doesn’t mean we have to retire from life itself. This clever and completely inspiring non-fiction provides real-life stories about people who have made the conscious decision to eschew that decline and instead incline during their later years. While unfortunate events sometimes throw us off track, how we respond and how we treat ourselves and others through these bad times are key to staying the course and maintaining that steady incline.
Curiosity, creativity, and connections are just a few of the topics presented that make all the difference between declining or getting up and moving, learning, and living, no matter your age. Based on the title, this book will naturally appeal to an older generation, but Inclined Elders is actually for people of all ages. In fact, reading these stories and heeding the sage advice would benefit younger adults tremendously because they can start developing a positive mindset, best practices, and good habits right now that will keep them always inclining and reaching for the stars, long past the age when people are expected to just sit down and watch the world go by.
As a wonderful bonus, Ramona Oliver presents her personal reflections at the end of each chapter and includes resources and additional information at the end, giving the reader plenty to explore beyond the pages of this book.
After reading Inclined Elders, I find I naturally have the ‘incline’ mindset and attitude already, but I could certainly embrace several of the aspects outlined in this book. I love to explore, travel, learn, and create. At 56, I am no doubt considered an elder by many, but I believe I have always had a sense of adventure, and I hope I will continue with that attitude throughout the rest of my life. This book encourages you to step out of your comfort zone, no matter your age, and fill your days with discovery, enlightenment, gratitude, and positive relationships. Easier said than done for many people, of course, but Inclined Elders smoothly and smartly guides the reader through the steps of devising a game plan either to stay out of or to break out of that old-age stereotype and start inclining rather than slipping down that proverbial hill.
Inclined Elders is not only about telling us to stay active as the birthdays pile up. Through interviews with people who have not gone gently into their so-called twilight years, this gem of a book shows that each person’s incline can and will look different. Sometimes it is making small lifestyle changes, such as taking up a hobby and joining like-minded groups, or starting an entirely new career when society says it is time to hang up your hat and locate a comfy couch or rocking chair. Inclining doesn’t always mean uprooting your entire life, but it can be if that is what you want. Inclined Elders shows is that we can examine what works for us and then change that game plan when life surprises us with a few road blocks and detours. Incliners don’t have to be derailed from life’s occasional sucker punch because we have built a firm foundation of optimism, hope, humor, and adventure to see us through.
In Inclined Elders, Ramona Oliver reminds us that it is never too late or too early to get up and try new things, reinvent yourself, learn a new skill, make new friends, or revisit a dream or goal that was shelved long ago. Your mind and body will thank you for the rest of your life.
I received a free copy of this book from Lone Star Book Blog Tours in exchange for my honest review.
What if we decide to age gracefully and courageously and not accept the rule that we must inevitably decline because we are now culturally considered 'old’?
In Inclined Elders by Ramona Oliver, we discover that retirement doesn’t mean we have to retire from life itself. This clever and completely inspiring non-fiction provides real-life stories about people who have made the conscious decision to eschew that decline and instead incline during their later years. While unfortunate events sometimes throw us off track, how we respond and how we treat ourselves and others through these bad times are key to staying the course and maintaining that steady incline.
Curiosity, creativity, and connections are just a few of the topics presented that make all the difference between declining or getting up and moving, learning, and living, no matter your age. Based on the title, this book will naturally appeal to an older generation, but Inclined Elders is actually for people of all ages. In fact, reading these stories and heeding the sage advice would benefit younger adults tremendously because they can start developing a positive mindset, best practices, and good habits right now that will keep them always inclining and reaching for the stars, long past the age when people are expected to just sit down and watch the world go by.
As a wonderful bonus, Ramona Oliver presents her personal reflections at the end of each chapter and includes resources and additional information at the end, giving the reader plenty to explore beyond the pages of this book.
After reading Inclined Elders, I find I naturally have the ‘incline’ mindset and attitude already, but I could certainly embrace several of the aspects outlined in this book. I love to explore, travel, learn, and create. At 56, I am no doubt considered an elder by many, but I believe I have always had a sense of adventure, and I hope I will continue with that attitude throughout the rest of my life. This book encourages you to step out of your comfort zone, no matter your age, and fill your days with discovery, enlightenment, gratitude, and positive relationships. Easier said than done for many people, of course, but Inclined Elders smoothly and smartly guides the reader through the steps of devising a game plan either to stay out of or to break out of that old-age stereotype and start inclining rather than slipping down that proverbial hill.
Inclined Elders is not only about telling us to stay active as the birthdays pile up. Through interviews with people who have not gone gently into their so-called twilight years, this gem of a book shows that each person’s incline can and will look different. Sometimes it is making small lifestyle changes, such as taking up a hobby and joining like-minded groups, or starting an entirely new career when society says it is time to hang up your hat and locate a comfy couch or rocking chair. Inclining doesn’t always mean uprooting your entire life, but it can be if that is what you want. Inclined Elders shows is that we can examine what works for us and then change that game plan when life surprises us with a few road blocks and detours. Incliners don’t have to be derailed from life’s occasional sucker punch because we have built a firm foundation of optimism, hope, humor, and adventure to see us through.
In Inclined Elders, Ramona Oliver reminds us that it is never too late or too early to get up and try new things, reinvent yourself, learn a new skill, make new friends, or revisit a dream or goal that was shelved long ago. Your mind and body will thank you for the rest of your life.
I received a free copy of this book from Lone Star Book Blog Tours in exchange for my honest review.
July 10, 2021
4.5 Stars! Aging can be scary for a lot of us. The unknown is looked at with concern. So, why do we not handle this part of our lives as we did other stages, with a look toward the future and the good things to come? This book does just that.
My dad, soon to be 86, is very much a positive force. While I try to follow his example, some days can be a challenge. This book was excellent in giving me some simple steps to use parts of my natural personality to increase my ability to Incline into aging.
I could easily relate to the being curious section and really connected with Betty’s story of her crystal bowl. Gratitude is another point that seems to be a lost art and can be so vital to one’s well being.
Another important note is the power of play. This is an idea reinforced regularly in our children but seems to be lost once we mature. I think this strongly relates to being curious and the two together can make life a lot more fun.
The simple tests and questions throughout the book kept me on the right incline(!) to accept and realize the many valid points and aspects of aging. I feel, after reading this, even more inclined to leave a legacy for my children that age is but a number and to enjoy every season of our lives.
My dad, soon to be 86, is very much a positive force. While I try to follow his example, some days can be a challenge. This book was excellent in giving me some simple steps to use parts of my natural personality to increase my ability to Incline into aging.
I could easily relate to the being curious section and really connected with Betty’s story of her crystal bowl. Gratitude is another point that seems to be a lost art and can be so vital to one’s well being.
Another important note is the power of play. This is an idea reinforced regularly in our children but seems to be lost once we mature. I think this strongly relates to being curious and the two together can make life a lot more fun.
The simple tests and questions throughout the book kept me on the right incline(!) to accept and realize the many valid points and aspects of aging. I feel, after reading this, even more inclined to leave a legacy for my children that age is but a number and to enjoy every season of our lives.
July 14, 2021
What a breath of fresh air it is to read Ramona Oliver’s uplifting (see what I did there?) Inclined Elders. The stories within its covers are each inspirational reminders that there’s a whole lotta life worth living no matter how many birthday candles are on your cake. If I am allowed one word to encompass how I feel leaving this book, it’s “enlightened.” (Okay, I need three words: enlightened, empowered, validated.)
“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, that will be enough.” – Meister Eckhart, 13th Century Theologian
While the above quote isn’t the author’s, it’s the first time I’ve read it, and it’s one I started really taking to heart about five years ago, after a particularly good Sunday sermon from my pastor. (And the selection of quotes Oliver sprinkles throughout the book is just one of the things I loved.) In Inclined Elders, there are many themes that repeat through the stories of people who choose to live a life of Inclining, but the one that speaks to me the most is living each day with gratitude. Even in the worst of times, the people in Oliver’s book focused on being thankful – and what catches the reader’s attention is how, whether it is a natural or medical or personal disaster being faced, these people don’t have to dig deep to find their appreciation for the good in their lives. When being thankful is a part of every day, it is life changing. (Enlightenment!)
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery, Author
Choosing to live a life of Incline isn’t all about attitude; it requires a plan. (Empowerment!) At its simplest, the plan requires nothing more than this: keep moving. Key to Inclining, not declining, is daily stimulating activity for both brain and body. For some, this is natural, but for many, this is a huge adjustment, both physically and mentally. And I know all too well that some just aren’t willing to make the effort. (More on that below.) Oliver shines the spotlight on the messages we are fed about aging and calls BS on them all. (Starting with the myth of biologically induced midlife crisis right up through those so-called golden Years defined by sitting in an easy chair.) We all have choices, and reading Inclined Elders made me realize that even though I’m nearly 54, I chose a while ago to live a life of Inclining. (Validation!) I have reinvented myself at the past several decade marks – switching majors at 20, changing careers at 30, getting my master’s at 40, becoming a small business owner at 50 – and I had models in my maternal grandmother and in my mother to continue learning, stay curious, and most importantly – keep the body in motion.
“Old age is hell.” – Nana (my maternal grandmother)
Nana was a force of nature, and after age 80 or so, this was her mantra. She lived to 94, spry and sassy, and let me tell ya, she gave it right back to the devil every day until her last day (and then I am certain she blew raspberries at him as she ascended). There aren’t guarantees, of course. Being thankful, having a plan to Incline, and taking brisk walks every day doesn’t mean you’ll see your nineties and beyond. In my own life, I know all too well that there are cruel twists (I could easily list a dozen right now.) My mother, who was active and clever and grateful and happy (and truly a light in the world) was struck by Pick’s Disease and died five years later. She was 74. My father, who is also grateful, sharp as a tack, and quite happy, hasn’t been active since his 30s, and can’t really walk any more because he’s chosen, literally, to recline, is 87. By choice, he lives in a lift chair and rarely leaves the house. At his annual exam each year, the doctor tells him he really ought to do something, but with zero health issues, and genes that would indicate he’ll live into his mid-nineties, Dad just asks, “Why?” He is happy with his choice to sit and watch life from his chair, and he’s grateful that he has the financial means to get the care he needs and has family members who are willing to come to him for visits. To each his own, I suppose. But again, it circles back to choices: we all have a choice about how we want to think and act as we age.
For those readers looking for a real guide and do-able steps to adjust their paths to be more Inclining, Inclined Elders is that book. The book is well-organized into sections that first inspire, then instruct, then offer opportunities for reflection and action. Plus, Oliver cross-references chapters and directs readers to the incredible resource pages at the end of the book – and the resource pages direct readers back to the chapters. Excellent. She has done her research, and the reader benefits from it because her research not only supports the assertions she makes, but she also provides the sources in an extensive notes section for readers’ further investigation, if desired.
Upon finishing my first reading of Inclined Elders, I have several takeaways. To begin, I say “first reading” because this is a resource to be revisited, as life throws its inevitable roadblocks. (I’m checking out the “Mindfulness Solutions” in the next day or two. Enlightenment!) Secondly, I have shifted my thinking to be about what I’m modeling to my kids and grandchildren. (Okay, I only have ONE grandbaby so far, but surely with five kids, there will be more). With Ramona Oliver’s help, I’ve realized that I’m still a work in progress, and I understand that as a person choosing a life of Inclining, that’s as it should be. (Empowerment!) Finally, though 99% of the time I feel like a hot mess, Inclined Elders showed me that I am what I am, but I’m also doing a great job Inclining as I approach my mid-fifties. Validation!
I highly recommend Inclined Elders to readers primarily ages 40 and up. It’s a quick read, it’s inspiring, and it teaches a mindset for all to embrace. Thank you to the author and Lone Star Book Blog Tours for a print copy in exchange for my honest opinion -- the only kind I give. This full review and more special features on Hall Ways Blog.
“If the only prayer you ever say in your entire life is thank you, that will be enough.” – Meister Eckhart, 13th Century Theologian
While the above quote isn’t the author’s, it’s the first time I’ve read it, and it’s one I started really taking to heart about five years ago, after a particularly good Sunday sermon from my pastor. (And the selection of quotes Oliver sprinkles throughout the book is just one of the things I loved.) In Inclined Elders, there are many themes that repeat through the stories of people who choose to live a life of Inclining, but the one that speaks to me the most is living each day with gratitude. Even in the worst of times, the people in Oliver’s book focused on being thankful – and what catches the reader’s attention is how, whether it is a natural or medical or personal disaster being faced, these people don’t have to dig deep to find their appreciation for the good in their lives. When being thankful is a part of every day, it is life changing. (Enlightenment!)
“A goal without a plan is just a wish.” – Antoine de Saint-Exupery, Author
Choosing to live a life of Incline isn’t all about attitude; it requires a plan. (Empowerment!) At its simplest, the plan requires nothing more than this: keep moving. Key to Inclining, not declining, is daily stimulating activity for both brain and body. For some, this is natural, but for many, this is a huge adjustment, both physically and mentally. And I know all too well that some just aren’t willing to make the effort. (More on that below.) Oliver shines the spotlight on the messages we are fed about aging and calls BS on them all. (Starting with the myth of biologically induced midlife crisis right up through those so-called golden Years defined by sitting in an easy chair.) We all have choices, and reading Inclined Elders made me realize that even though I’m nearly 54, I chose a while ago to live a life of Inclining. (Validation!) I have reinvented myself at the past several decade marks – switching majors at 20, changing careers at 30, getting my master’s at 40, becoming a small business owner at 50 – and I had models in my maternal grandmother and in my mother to continue learning, stay curious, and most importantly – keep the body in motion.
“Old age is hell.” – Nana (my maternal grandmother)
Nana was a force of nature, and after age 80 or so, this was her mantra. She lived to 94, spry and sassy, and let me tell ya, she gave it right back to the devil every day until her last day (and then I am certain she blew raspberries at him as she ascended). There aren’t guarantees, of course. Being thankful, having a plan to Incline, and taking brisk walks every day doesn’t mean you’ll see your nineties and beyond. In my own life, I know all too well that there are cruel twists (I could easily list a dozen right now.) My mother, who was active and clever and grateful and happy (and truly a light in the world) was struck by Pick’s Disease and died five years later. She was 74. My father, who is also grateful, sharp as a tack, and quite happy, hasn’t been active since his 30s, and can’t really walk any more because he’s chosen, literally, to recline, is 87. By choice, he lives in a lift chair and rarely leaves the house. At his annual exam each year, the doctor tells him he really ought to do something, but with zero health issues, and genes that would indicate he’ll live into his mid-nineties, Dad just asks, “Why?” He is happy with his choice to sit and watch life from his chair, and he’s grateful that he has the financial means to get the care he needs and has family members who are willing to come to him for visits. To each his own, I suppose. But again, it circles back to choices: we all have a choice about how we want to think and act as we age.
For those readers looking for a real guide and do-able steps to adjust their paths to be more Inclining, Inclined Elders is that book. The book is well-organized into sections that first inspire, then instruct, then offer opportunities for reflection and action. Plus, Oliver cross-references chapters and directs readers to the incredible resource pages at the end of the book – and the resource pages direct readers back to the chapters. Excellent. She has done her research, and the reader benefits from it because her research not only supports the assertions she makes, but she also provides the sources in an extensive notes section for readers’ further investigation, if desired.
Upon finishing my first reading of Inclined Elders, I have several takeaways. To begin, I say “first reading” because this is a resource to be revisited, as life throws its inevitable roadblocks. (I’m checking out the “Mindfulness Solutions” in the next day or two. Enlightenment!) Secondly, I have shifted my thinking to be about what I’m modeling to my kids and grandchildren. (Okay, I only have ONE grandbaby so far, but surely with five kids, there will be more). With Ramona Oliver’s help, I’ve realized that I’m still a work in progress, and I understand that as a person choosing a life of Inclining, that’s as it should be. (Empowerment!) Finally, though 99% of the time I feel like a hot mess, Inclined Elders showed me that I am what I am, but I’m also doing a great job Inclining as I approach my mid-fifties. Validation!
I highly recommend Inclined Elders to readers primarily ages 40 and up. It’s a quick read, it’s inspiring, and it teaches a mindset for all to embrace. Thank you to the author and Lone Star Book Blog Tours for a print copy in exchange for my honest opinion -- the only kind I give. This full review and more special features on Hall Ways Blog.
May 11, 2021
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July 17, 2021
“While I don’t climb mountains anymore, I can still enjoy hiking around them. It’s simply a matter of modification that I’ve applied to many life activities.”
Years ago, when I was working on a historical preservation project, I met a delightful older lady who was well into her 80s. I traveled with her many times and one time while sitting at the airport in Austin, Texas, she said today was her birthday. Everyone around her congratulated her and before we got on the plane she said she hated birthdays. All they were a number that she refused to acknowledge. She was more than her age. She was made up of everything in life she experienced. Full spunk and loved life. I soon thereafter stopped counting my birthdays.
Inclined Elders by author Ramona Oliver is a book that everyone should read over the age of 40. Heck, it is one book I wish my better half would read. This small book is packed with valuable insights on how to tackle aging for people who still count their birthdays and recognize their ages. Eloquently written the message throughout the book is authoritative for helping readers work through the process of not accepting their ages.
The best part I loved about this book was the sharing of the stories of the people that are inclining. Overall, attitude is key for any of us especially to be better humans. I loved the fact that the author references more than once about moving your body and keeping your body moving. As the eye doctor recently mentioned to me at my last appointment the other day “sitting on the couch kills more people than living.”
At the end of each section is the author offers Personal Reflection questions for readers to work through. Nice summarization is provided at the end of the book. The author provides a section for further resources at the end of the book.
“But at the end of the day, every single person has the same number of hours in each day. What you do with those hours positively or negatively frames your entire life. We’re all on the same playing field when it comes to what we do with our life. Your mindset makes the most difference in your entire life.”
Readers seeking guidance when they are at a loss of needing hope will find fantastic guidance. Most people are not as lucky as I was to have had an older friend to teach me to stop counting birthdays and living life. Inclined Elders is an exceptional book to help you do just that…
My rating: 4.5 Stars!
Years ago, when I was working on a historical preservation project, I met a delightful older lady who was well into her 80s. I traveled with her many times and one time while sitting at the airport in Austin, Texas, she said today was her birthday. Everyone around her congratulated her and before we got on the plane she said she hated birthdays. All they were a number that she refused to acknowledge. She was more than her age. She was made up of everything in life she experienced. Full spunk and loved life. I soon thereafter stopped counting my birthdays.
Inclined Elders by author Ramona Oliver is a book that everyone should read over the age of 40. Heck, it is one book I wish my better half would read. This small book is packed with valuable insights on how to tackle aging for people who still count their birthdays and recognize their ages. Eloquently written the message throughout the book is authoritative for helping readers work through the process of not accepting their ages.
The best part I loved about this book was the sharing of the stories of the people that are inclining. Overall, attitude is key for any of us especially to be better humans. I loved the fact that the author references more than once about moving your body and keeping your body moving. As the eye doctor recently mentioned to me at my last appointment the other day “sitting on the couch kills more people than living.”
At the end of each section is the author offers Personal Reflection questions for readers to work through. Nice summarization is provided at the end of the book. The author provides a section for further resources at the end of the book.
“But at the end of the day, every single person has the same number of hours in each day. What you do with those hours positively or negatively frames your entire life. We’re all on the same playing field when it comes to what we do with our life. Your mindset makes the most difference in your entire life.”
Readers seeking guidance when they are at a loss of needing hope will find fantastic guidance. Most people are not as lucky as I was to have had an older friend to teach me to stop counting birthdays and living life. Inclined Elders is an exceptional book to help you do just that…
My rating: 4.5 Stars!
July 19, 2021
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